Run away quick! He’s talking about the “C” word…commitment!!

Why is that some people are scared of commitment? Some couples living in defacto relationships feel more comfortable with the status quo and dread to think about formalising the relatiionship through marriage. After all, marriage takes commitment!

Whether you realise it or not commitment can be found in all aspects of your life. You are committed to your job, your hobbies, perhaps your friends. But maybe you don’t call it “commitment” because you don’t like to feel trapped into a situation.

And that is pretty much what commitment is. Oxford Dictionary defines “commitment” as:

1. an engagement or (esp. financial) obligation that restricts freedon of action.

2. the process of an instance of committing oneself; a pledge or undertaking.

3.dedication, application

We don’t like giving up our freedom. We don’t  like to be “stuck” in siutations or relationships.

However, there is an “opportunity cost” for achieving any hopes, goals, dreams, or life desires. You need to give something up in order to get something else. Maybe it’s your time, the television, a friendship that keeps dragging you down. There will be something you have to give up in order to acheive your goals or dreams.

Any thing of value requires effort. If you look at the definitions above, you’ll see that commitment is not passive, it requires a decision and action. That is probably why a lot of people don’t like commitment. It requires sacrifice and hard work!

In a society that is so used to having things instant and fast, we are not used to having to give up our time and effort to get what we want. But anything of value, whether it be tangible (like a financial goal or losing weight) or intangible (such as  developing your self-esteem or improving your self-image), requires work and yes, that “C” word…commitment.

What goals, ambitions, hopes or desires do you have for your life? Have you got them yet? Have you made a start? If you have said “No”, then it’s time tio get serious and COMMIT.

Commitment doesn’t mean to do something about it every now and then. It requires daily action. Don’t feel like you have to do everything at once. Just do something small each day, and before you know it you are well on your way to acheiving you goal.

The trick (well, it’s not really a trick, it’s more like common sense) is to make a consistent effort.

Remember how I mentioned about “opportunity cost”, this simply means: giving up one thing for another thing that you think has a higher value than the thing you have given up. This is the sacrifice required when you are committed to a project, goal, or dream.

So it’s time to stop procrastinating. It’s time to stop making excuses. It’s time to stop saying you’ll do it “tomorrow” (after all “tomorrow” never comes!). It’s time to stop giving up after failing one or more times.


Be like the determined bulldog who refused to give up his bone no matter how many people tried to take it away from him.

Make a consistent, determined, committed effort to your goals each day and watch them come to pass. It’s inevitablel!!!




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