Don’t Worry….Be Happy!

Hi folks!

Can you all remember the Bobby McFerrin song that was such a huge hit in the 1980s? It was so catchy and it was all about not worrying and being happy!

How much time do we spend worrying about was has been? We can’t change the past. How much time do we worry about the future? Who knows, the thing that you are worried about will probably never happen! But what is happening while you are worrying is you are robbing yourself of the enjoyment of now!

Worry is a liar and a thief! It lies about things that might not happen. It always comes in with “What if…” statements. But those statements have no real factual basis, it is just worry building up a weak, baseless case built around our fears. 

Worry is a thief because it steals our enjoyment. We are so anxious about things that may happen. We find that we can not enjoy “NOW” because all our thoughts and emotions are tied up with thinking about worse case scenarios! Our happiness is taken from us!

I used to worry a lot about a lot of things! I used to worry about what people would think about me (heck I even thought I knew exactly what they were thinking about me! Not good thoughts either!). I used to worry about the future (What if such and such happens? What will I do? How will i cope?) But I have realised that my worries were fictitious! It was just my fears, self-doubt, and insecurity collaborating together to created fairy tales!

How did I overcome my worries? First by challenging the accuracy of my thoughts. How sound is the argument put forward by my worry? You will find that the arguments are usually weak! Next I also realised that “whatever will be will be”. That might sound blase, but if the thing that you worry about does come to pass, then just deal with it in it’s own due time. You may even find that it was not the “mountain” you made it out to be. 

Another thing that I learned was how to practice “mindfulness”. If you don’t know what “mindfulness” is, then you can easily do a Google search. But here is a website that you can check out: 

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-courage-be-present/201001/how-practice-mindfulness-meditation

Simply, in a nutshell, mindfulness is the practice of enjoying, to the fullest extent,  the moment that you are in now. 

So, forget about the past, you can not change what has been. Do not stress or worry about the future, that can still be changed for the better anyway. Just be happy in the “NOW”. Enjoy the moment that you are in. 

If you do that, then you truly will find that you “Don’t Worry”, but rather that you will “Be Happy”!

 

 

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Get Uncomfortable!

Hey everyone! 

I honestly hope that you are all getting something out of my posts. They are a reflection of where I am with my life and the self-motivation and encouragement I give to myself. But I love to share and encourage others to be all they can be. 

At times in our lives we can “rest on our laurels” and enjoy where we are at in our life-journey. There is nothing wrong with that, especially if one has put in a lot of work to reach that point. Take some time out and congratulate yourself. Heck, even go and reward yourself for getting to that point!

The danger lies in staying at that point. We may look at people around us, they don’t seem to be achieving much with their lives. When encouraged to do something with their lives, they come up with a bunch of excuses as to why they do not want to. “I don’t know how”, “I’m too thick”, “I haven’t got the skills”. Chances are they are only giving reasons because they are comfortable and they do not want to get out of the rut. They may have dreams, but it would require effort and these people do not have the motivation to expend the energy to bring their dreams into reality.

Sometimes in your life, you may have periods where you get comfortable. You know there is more that you have to do, but you want to settle down and enjoy the comfort. Be warned, the more time you spend in your “comfort-zone”, the harder it will be to break out of it! I know, I have been there!! It takes a lot of self-talk and motivation to get the train back on the track again. 

If you find yourself in a rut, it’s time to break out of it! I have heard a rut described as “a coffin with the ends kicked out.” If there are things that you still need to achieve. If there are goals that you are striving toward. If there are dreams that you are still to realise, then get out of your comfort-zone!

It is time to get uncomfortable! For in doing so, you are making progress. Be the one who is willing to do what others won’t, so that you can have what others don’t!

GO FOR IT!!!

 

No excuses!

Hi guys and gals!

We make them all the time. We make them for ourselves. We might even make them for other people. What are they? EXCUSES!!

It is so easy to make excuses. it means that we do not have to deal with certain things in our lives. it means that we do not have to change. We make excuses for other people, because it is easier to do that then to face the reality of the other person’s behaviour. 

Excuses allow us to maintain the status quo. They give us reasons as to why we let our lives our lives to remain as they when people ask us why we do not want to change. But excuses are disempowering. They provide us with illusion. They are subtle defense mechanisms we call upon to justify ourselves and our lot in life.

I could come up with a a raft of excuses as to why my life is where it is at right now. I could also blame other people, blame circumstances, but such behaviour does not get one to where one wants to be in life. What goals do you have for your life? What ambitions have you got? What are your dreams? 

Are you making excuses as to why you are not pursuing your dreams and ambitions? STOP IT!! Start coming up with reasons as to why you should be chasing your dreams. Set goals for yourself. Make plans not excuses!! Once you put these things in practise, see how far you go!

The only person stopping you is YOU! Put away the excuse book! Chase your dreams and goals. Have fun!