Over the past several posts I have offered you all different ways of combating stress with different relaxation techniques. As the final post in this series (I hope you all have found something that works for you!) you may wonder which technique is the best. To be honest, they all have their merits and I recommend that you use all of them.
To me I consider the techniques to be individual parcels of a bigger “Stress Buster” package. Individually the different techniques provide beneficial affect in helping you alleviate and reduce stress, but as you use the techniques together the affect is tremendous! Just think of a Weapon of Mass Destruction blowing away stress!
How does the WMD work? It works by you employing all the techniques daily as you combat the stress you face. During the day do a body scan when you feel yourself getting tense. Stop and do deep breathing and visualise the stress melting away. When you have a break throughout the day, you can do some subtle progressive relaxation and deep breathing. At the end of the day you can take 20-30 minutes out of your schedule and do some meditation and/or visualisation exercises.
When you use the techniques in combination you will maximise the benefit that they have. Just think of it as a “Stress Buster Synergy” – the effect of the whole is greater than the individual parts. Remember that it is important for you to do this daily. In a month, stop and take stock of the stress level(s) in your life and you will be surprised at how much more relaxed, calm and at peace you are.
Welcome to another installment in my reducing stress and anxiety series!
Over the past few weeks I have shown you how to identify tension in your body and techniques on how to eliminate the tension. Now we will turn our attention to the inner storms that may be occurring in our minds and souls.
Too often we are focused on the external world around us. It’s not our fault, it is just the way our society has taught us to be. We are busy living our lives. We don’t really stop to take time out and relax. The result is that we get stressed. What we need to do is set aside 15-30 minutes each day whereby we can be by ourselves in a quite environment and focus on what is happening within.
When people think of meditation the usually visualise a bearded guy in a white outfit sitting in the lotus position repeating the “Om” mantra. I have good news for you: you do not have to grow a beard nor find some isolated mountain top to climb upon to find inner peace! All you need is a quite place where you can go and not be disturbed while you focus within yourself and discover where the storms are raging within your mind and soul. Then quite those storms.
So how do you meditate? Here is one way:
- Find a quite environment where you can go and not be disturbed for 15-30 minutes. Wear lose clothing.
- Sit or lie down in a comfortable position and close your eyes.
- Take several slow, deep, cleansing breathes and then slowly exhale.
- Pick a word to focus on during the length of the meditation. The idea is to focus your mind on this rather than allowing your thoughts to run amok like they usually do.
- Just repeat the word over and over again in your mind. If you find that your thoughts are getting away on you, do not be hard on yourself as your mind will start to wander. Just realise that your mind has wandered and then gently bring your mind back to refocus on the word.
- As you focus on the word you may begin to discover storms raging within your soul. This is because your mind has been allowed to have free reign with thoughts of worry and anxiety. Stay focused solely on the object/word of your meditation.
- At the end of the 15-30 minutes, slowly open your eyes. How do you feel now? Do you feel more peaceful within yourself? Have the storms abated within your mind and soul? They should have!
After a few weeks of daily meditation you will be amazed at how much happier and calmer you are. The things that used to bother you seem to have disappeared! Which means less stress in your life!
Here is one meditation that I just love doing. It is a centering exercise which enables you to push the external world to the periphery of your life and just be by yourself (I am not associated in any way to the group that has provided this video):
So…go…sit and meditate!
Hey guys and gals!
Today has to have been one of the weirdest days I have experienced in a long time! Maybe I was one of the few that actually got up on the right side of the bed. All day I was surrounded by negativity!
Is there some celestial misalignment going on that I was not aware of? This morning I observed one guy slamming cupboard doors and drawers trying to find a roll of stickers that he had seen earlier. The more, he looked the more frustrated he got. He got in a right tizzy!
This afternoon there were several people looking for another object. It started with one person, then another got involved, then another and another! All these people ended up getting each other stressed and irritable.
I honestly could not believe what I was watching. It was like some virus that was jumping from one person to the other to the other. Next thing the whole atmosphere was full of negativity and anger. Most of the people I witnessed in the situation had caught the “negativity bug”.
What we all need to learn is how to be immune to catching something that contagious. Just because someone around you is being negative, stressed and wanting to “dump” it on you, does not mean you have to “catch” that bug!! Become immune!! I found that I was immune in the midst of the whole situation. I was like a calm blue ocean while the storm blew all around me.
How do you become immune from negativity? It takes a combination of things. (Just like it does when you need to build up your immunity against a natural illness). Here is my wee recommendation (it is a daily dosage!!):
- When you get up in the morning tell yourself that you are going to have a great day!
- Avoid contact with those carrying the “negativity bug.” (That does not mean you have to be a snob and ignore them. Just do not allow yourself to be affected by the negativity they want to spread!)
- Do Deep Relaxation exercises. Do these for at least 20-30 minutes a day. (I find that visualisation meditation is a great soother of the soul. I do these at least once a day!)
- If you feel yourself getting stressed or tense. Stop what you are doing, or walk away from the situation (you can always go back once you are ready!). Take several deep breathes. Concentrate your attention on your breathing.
I do these all the time. It takes discipline and work. But on days like today, when there was negativity and tension no matter where I went or looked, it helped me get through the day.
This evening I just took time out on the couch and relaxed in silence. No radio on. No TV blaring away. Just the stillness of the evening touching my soul and liberating me from the negativity that tried to steal my peace!
I hope this helps you all develop some sense of peace and serenity as you go through your day. It would be foolish for anyone to think that they will never encounter negativity during the day, but we can choose not to let it steal the thing that we should protect most: our peace!